How does having an autistic sibling affect public outings?

Having an autistic sibling can make public outings difficult, because of their unpredictable behavior. Both in casual and formal settings an emergency bathroom trip or a broken DVD player can cause an extreme response. An effective way to alleviate the stress of an unpredictable public outing is to attempt to understand your siblings triggers, like a loud room or a screaming child, and try to avoid them or help develop coping mechanisms. We also earned to be prepared in the case of an emergency. An example of this is my parents usually take two cars when we go places in case my brother needs to leave early.


What to do when people stare?

According to the Centers for Disease Control’s Autism and Developmental Disabilities Monitoring (ADDM) 1 in 68 people are diagnosed with autism, meaning that the majority of the population knows someone with autism. However, staring will happen often and you have to try and not let it bother you, because your sibling is an individual who deserves nothing but respect and those who stare are just uninformed. Perhaps as people with Autism become more integrated into our society the public will become more familiar and comfortable seeing people on the spectrum in our everyday life. However until that happens keep your head held high and ignore the staring or if need be try and educate people who are unaware of what they are making you feel.


 What to do when you or your sibling is bullied because of their autism?

For a person to bully you or your sibling because of a disability is simply deplorable, and those who find it humorous or enjoyable are ignorant and malicious human beings, and do not be afraid to tell them that is what you think of their disgusting behavior. Additionally, contact an administrator or adult and have them intervene if the bullying does not stop. “No bullying” contracts in schools have been effective in combating these issues, as well as in creating a culture of acceptance in the institution. However, if you find that approach futile, my email is on the back of this pamphlet, and I will endeavor to help you in any way I can.


As you grow up how will your relationship change?

Both of you will mature as you grow up and that will greatly affect your relationship. The early teen years will be difficult because of the swiftly changing range of emotions you and your sibling will experience. However, as you enter your latter part of your adolescence everyone will relax and you will hopefully attempt to avoid all of each other’s triggers, thus creating a stable tranquility that will develop within your family.


How to develop a bond with an autistic person?

Common interests are an essential part of any relationship, and that is no different with an autistic person. Find something that the two of you can do and enjoy together, to help create a bond that can develop into a very close relationship. Examples of this are going for walks together, playing games, doing art projects, and going out to meals together. Spending time with your sibling helps strengthen the relationship between the two of you. Try to pay attention to them and acknowledge their presence as equal members of your family. Remember how difficult it must be not to communicate easily, so try and make life easier for your sibling and parents by being engaged and amenable to all situations your siblings face.


How to understand your role as a person with a sibling with autism?

Your autistic sibling will take a lot of your parents attention; however, remember they are trying their best to treat all of their children equally. Having a disabled child is difficult and you should attempt to assist them, and maybe even spend time with them while they are helping your autistic sibling, in order to create a harmonious and enjoyable atmosphere. At times you may need to help your parents with your sibling. Try to make it enjoyable and keep open communication if you feel overwhelmed or need support.